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Who Will You Bring Into Your Next Life Phase?

Who Will You Bring Into Your Next Life Phase?

There’s a wonderful parable about a couple looking to move to another community. They are walking down a country road and come upon a wise sage sitting at the gates of a village. The couple tells the sage they are looking to move and wonder if this might be a friendly village. The sage asks them about their previous village; they confide that it wasn’t a very friendly place to live. He tells them they will likely find this village isn’t very friendly either. A different couple arrives at the gates of the same village; they ask the wise sage the same question. The sage questions them about their experience in their previous village. This couple exclaims joyfully that their village was loving and friendly. The sage suggests they will likely find this village just as loving and friendly. As Confucius said, No matter where you go, there you are.   It’s the same with any life transition. We bring who we are to every life phase. The who is typically quite established and crystallized by the time we approach our later years. It is how we express the who that will likely need to change and evolve through progressive life transitions. The how may require some pretty flexible problem-solving. It has been suggested that the quality of our life is determined by the quality of the questions we ask. For instance, instead of asking ourselves what we want to do when we retire, a more productive question might be to ask how the expression of what we love to do is likely to evolve over the next 30...