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Making Change Stick

Making Change Stick

Maybe it was a heart attack… Tipping into the type 2 diabetic range… Or any other health or social scare.   The writing is now on the wall – something needs to change.   Eat better, exercise more, lose weight, stop smoking, drink less, meditate more, sleep well.  Typically, after the shock and fear are processed, there is a real and well-intentioned commitment to do things differently.  This time, things will be unlike before – until it isn’t. What is it that makes change so darn hard to maintain?  As it turns out, faulty thinking, misplaced motivation, poor strategies, and ineffective tools can all contribute toward that famous road paved with good intentions. Some factors that can sabotage our success: • Biting off too much to chew at once.  I can really relate to this one!  An ‘all or nothing’ kind of gal myself, I tend to think I can go from 0 to 1000% within a variety of arenas all at the same time and within one single leap of faith.  This is typically a surefire way to crash.    • Drawing on negative motivation rather than positive motivation.  While fear, regret, shame and guilt may cause us to try something new, research suggests that these motivators do not work long term. • Relapses seen as failure.  Slips or relapses are all part of the process and do not suggest that you have to throw in the towel!  Get back on track asap and do not let the ‘slip’ justify a regression to old habits. • Thinking about change as a finite event instead of an ongoing process.  Change requires an ever...