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Clarity Creates Purpose with Passion

Clarity Creates Purpose with Passion

  In a previous Maturity Matters, we discussed how true leadership presents inspiration, vision, strategy and stewardship.  In doing so, leadership really creates clarity. It all starts with becoming clear about the values we want to demonstrate and impact we want to create.  I believe it was Anthony Robbins who first suggested that the quality of our life is revealed through the quality of the questions that we ask. Isn’t that a great observation? Quality Questions Let’s start with asking what we ultimately want to experience and produce in this life.   When we first ask ourselves to define the ultimate higher-end intentions we want to demonstrate and experience, then the strategies, tactics and tools are more easily unveiled. So what are the higher-end objectives?  Responses typically include: Feeling Connected Being Engaged Expressing and Receiving Love Standing In-Service Promoting a sense of Well-Being Staying Safe Supporting Autonomy Living with Dignity Think about the professionals and businesses serving you.  In what way do their products and services contribute toward your experience of these higher-end aims? Do the financial, accounting, or legal products, plans and advice help to create safety, autonomy and dignity? In what way does the move organizer and real estate agent support your feelings of connection and engagement? How do your home care or health care providers serve your sense of well-being? Most importantly, do they even know that their products and services need to align with goals bigger and grander than just a plan or transaction?  If not, do you need to find a business that does? Provocative questions. You Don’t Do What You Think You Do My...
Making Change Stick

Making Change Stick

Maybe it was a heart attack… Tipping into the type 2 diabetic range… Or any other health or social scare.   The writing is now on the wall – something needs to change.   Eat better, exercise more, lose weight, stop smoking, drink less, meditate more, sleep well.  Typically, after the shock and fear are processed, there is a real and well-intentioned commitment to do things differently.  This time, things will be unlike before – until it isn’t. What is it that makes change so darn hard to maintain?  As it turns out, faulty thinking, misplaced motivation, poor strategies, and ineffective tools can all contribute toward that famous road paved with good intentions. Some factors that can sabotage our success: • Biting off too much to chew at once.  I can really relate to this one!  An ‘all or nothing’ kind of gal myself, I tend to think I can go from 0 to 1000% within a variety of arenas all at the same time and within one single leap of faith.  This is typically a surefire way to crash.    • Drawing on negative motivation rather than positive motivation.  While fear, regret, shame and guilt may cause us to try something new, research suggests that these motivators do not work long term. • Relapses seen as failure.  Slips or relapses are all part of the process and do not suggest that you have to throw in the towel!  Get back on track asap and do not let the ‘slip’ justify a regression to old habits. • Thinking about change as a finite event instead of an ongoing process.  Change requires an ever...
Bet There’s an App for That!

Bet There’s an App for That!

Do you line up the night before to buy the latest shiny new device being launched the next day? Perhaps you are a self-proclaimed “luddite” who opposes technological change.   More likely, you shun the two extremes and embrace technology that actually works, serves you, and makes your life easier, safer, and more convenient. New technologies are being introduced continually to help us maintain our independence and age more safely in place. Monitors alert us to take specific medications at prescribed times of day and ensure the medications are accessible only then. Do you fear a loved one will miss taking meds? No problem. A pre-recorded reminder message can arrive to the loved one through the TV set and a text message can alert you or another caregiver that the meds were not taken. Motion detectors can identify when routine activities of daily living fail to be carried out. Perhaps the fridge door was not opened throughout the day or the toilet was not flushed. Once again, caregivers can be alerted to the lack of activity.  In terms of your personal health, blood pressure, heart rate, and blood sugar can be monitored on a regular basis. Various vital biomarkers can be tracked, recorded, and uploaded to a cloud file for review by your healthcare practitioners. Is mobility a problem or do you live in a rural area? Telehealth connections allow you to engage directly with healthcare professionals through Skype and other technologies.    Robots are being developed to assume some of the caregiving tasks and Japan is leading the way. With an emerging aging population and an insufficient number of caregivers...